I am back with another sad story. Dorian Ringer writes, “I went to pick-up my date and honked for her in her driveway, but she never came out. When I went to the door, her roommates told me, ‘she will not be going out with you tonight.’”
For some reason chivalry has left the dating scene. Guys are just not gentlemen any more. So, let’s use that to our benefit. This will really help us stand out from all the other dates these girls go on during the week.
This is what the ladies told me: “The door. Get it!” They say it’s worth points. (Not sure what that meant.)
Evidently, girls keep score during a date; for some it is a numbers game, others use a grading scale. (I thought that might be helpful for some of us out there.)
“The Door.” Apparently, girls have a thing about the door, and it applies in a few areas. When you go to pick her up, walk to “the door” and either ring the doorbell or knock. Do not call her from your cell phone and tell her to meet you in your car. Even if you’ve known her for a while, get out and go to the door!
Of course, there’s your car door, too. Trust me; this is big on the points scale. There is a shortage of perfect gentlemen out there. Opening her door when she is getting in your car will elevate you from being a “typical boy.” Don’t worry, there is no need to open it when she gets out; it’s just the getting in part.
As with the car door, get the door at the restaurant, dance or bowling ally. You don’t need to make a big deal about it, but you should treat the girl with respect. This is one of the easiest ways to do that. And again, it’s about points here.
Finally, the “door” scene. If you had a good time (and even if you didn’t) walk her to the door. Take a few minutes to park your car, turn off the engine and walk her to the door. This is a perfect opportunity for you to talk about the time you spent together this evening and ask her for a second date (hint, hint).
Guys, I know there are not many gentlemen out there, but for once give it a try. You might be pleasantly surprised. I am sure she will.
It is always good manners to walk a lady to the door after a date. After all, once you are married THEN you will be honking the horn to tell her to hurry up!
Comment by Mary B — May 24, 2008 @ 4:40 am