Not every guy feels the same way about this question; some say yes, some say no. But, there are a few dating tactics that are perfectly OK for girls to do. Now, because not every guy is the same, these suggestions will work some of the time for most guys.
There first needs to be a definition explaining what a date actually is. For many guys a date requires three things: It’s Paid for, Planned and Paired off (The Three P’s). If all three exist in a date-like setting, it’s safe to say you are on a date. Therefore, if just one “P” is missing, it doesn’t actually qualify as being a date. (wink, wink)
What does this mean? Well ladies, if you would like to get to know a guy, who has not taken the initiative to ask you out, you have a few options. Let’s look at a few: the “roommate party” approach, the “can-you-stop-by-some-time” approach, and, of course, the “I’ve-gotta-bring-a-date-to-this-event-and-I-need-someone-to-go-with” approach. The first two are relatively easy to execute, but the third may take some practice.
First, let’s discuss the “roommate party,” and how to execute this flawlessly. The safest approach would be to invite an apartment of guys over for dinner or games. That way no one feels the pressure of being paired off. Now it’s a more relaxed setting, and everyone feels more comfortable with the situation.
See. It’s that easy; just ditch one of the P’s from the equation.
Then you have the “can-you-stop-by-some-time” approach. Just find an excuse for him to stop by; you might end up going out for ice cream or hot chocolate. Just make it spontaneous. The key is not to plan it.
Finally, the “I’ve-gotta-bring-a-date-to-this-event-and-I-need-someone-to-go-with” approach works only if there is an actual event – company parties, social have-to’s, and receptions. Just make sure you’re not paying for it otherwise it’s a date. This approach removes that awkward whose-gonna-pay feeling we’ve all experienced. It even works if you’ve only known the guy for a few days.
Just remember men are simple creatures; if you play it smart, he’ll never even suspect it was a date. Above all, have fun!
There are millions of possibilities to ask a guy for a quasi-date. Just remember to ditch one of the “P’s.” Happy hunting ladies.