I found this excerpt online; got me laughing… probably because I’m a little disenchanted right now.
“Disconcerted about the dating scene, this young man became jaded with the tactics of young ladies jockeying for pole position. Especially, as the sisters and mothers of said ladies crept their electronic fingers across the Web hoping to entangle him in a web reeking of feminine intrigue.”
— VOTE FOR BRANDON —
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You know Don, I came back this post for a reason. Today in sacrament meeting the talks were on eternal marriage and it really boiled down to the Proclamation of Family and section 132. Now, I don’t think when you get married you are going to ask your wife to bear her testimony as soon as she wakes up…But you probably want her to take these two things I mentioned earlier very seriously. Hopefully in your quest you are taking these principles and looking for them in whom you date! So to use your term “In my own opinion” I won’t get on my soapbox about this anymore!
*laughing hysterically while remembering the conversation about this very blog post* Funny times!
Whoever wrote that must be really in tune with what you needed to hear. How serendipitous!
I agree there is a difference between standards and expectations. To me standards are your beliefs and you should not compromise those.
OK. Jane. I will try.
For me. I feel that if I do like a guy, I have a feeling he’s not going to give me the time of day. I know I I did that to one time. We worked at the same place. He was a camera guy. I was an intern with the weather department. Then I saw him again a few years later at church. I didn’t know him and he grew his hair long.
When we saw each other again, he told me I wouldn’t give him the time of day and I felt the same way years later. He just got married and I feel like he was the guy who got away. Plus he’s my choir director and I met him when I was in college. LOL
I guess it is hard on us single people. I really never dated anybody in my life. I fell for a guy once and then he broke my heart. It took a while for me to get over.
OK. Enough about me. I know how Don feels. I’ve been there.
I don’t think you have to lower your standards, just your expectations of who/what you imagine your partner to be. I just mean, don’t expect perfection cos you just end up ‘disenchanted’…lol
You know something, Jane. I’m probably doing the same thing. Setting my standard high. That’s probably why I still haven’t found my guy yet either. Us young people. I think we do look at looks first before we even care about how intelligent and smart they are. *Goes to the corner*
Jane. As for Don to not tell the girl about himself and who’s his family. Well. That’s going to be hard to say. They’re going to find out one way or another that he comes from a famous family and his father is Donny Osmond. You have to remembered. Majority of the Osmonds live in Utah. That’s going to be hard to not know who he is.
That could be one of the problems. Their are some people who wants to married a famous person. OK. Some.
Ladies. I think I need to take some of your advice too because I’m having trouble myself in the guys department. I think I better lower my standards myself.
Hmmm…been trying to avoid this blog but I keep coming back and its still here. I don’t really get the last sentence of that quote but obviously people have picked up on the bit you said about being disenchanted. OK, Why are you disenchanted?
All this advice for you and how many of us know you personally? One? maybe 2, don’t know.
But Susy I think has hit the nail on the head and you need to ask yourself some of those questions.
Are You setting your sights too high?. Don’t go for perfection cos you aint gonna find it. I’m wondering Don, without getting personal, Is it that you are not finding the girls you date ‘good’ enough (I know that’s not the right word but can’t think of a more appropriate word right now)…or is it the other way around? What I mean is, who stops calling? You or them? I’m not expecting you to answer that as its too personal but just to ask yourself these questions. Do you show a genuine interest in your date by asking her questions about herself? Do you talk about yourself too much? Where do you take them on a first date? If they don’t really know you, do you tell them who you are and about your family? (Maybe best not to on your first date just to make sure they have real reasons to want to go on a second date) Do you always go for the same type of girl? If so, don’t. Go for someone completely opposite. You know what they say…opposites attract…:)
I guess I could go on, but I already feel as if I’m stepping on prohibited territory as far as being a ‘fan’ is concerned. I’m just ‘talking’ to you like I would my own son.
You are a lovely man Don, and I know the right girl is out there somewhere just waiting for you to find her. God will lead you to her in good time…you’ll see…:)
Don, if you do go the cooking route, I think Italian would be more effective, with some lush chocolate dessert. Actually, come to think of it, maybe you should save that for AFTER the marriage; it could lead to very bad things. Stick with the Mexican food.
Sigh.
::shakes head::
Do I need to say more, Don?
I agree, Spice. I love a guy who can cook because I know I can’t cook that well.
You’re right, Brenda. I’ve been told the same thing too. My single and married friends have told me that guy will come when you least expected. What is up that saying? It never gets old. I’m just sick and tired of the you’re get married when the time comes or its not your time or your time will come. Sometimes I want to clap them.
I don’t know what type of girl Don wants, but she’s out there somewhere. The question is where. Don. Get out of your comfort zone and look at a girl who’s great, intelligent, doesn’t care who you are(you know what I mean) and she’s just fun loving person who will love you for WHO YOU are. That is hard to find sometimes because I’m still looking.
Boy. My single life is so boring.
OMG, I knew this was going to start. Holiday Season is coming. First, don’t play the dating game as a game. Didn’t you have a bet one time who could date the most in a year or something like that. No wonder your disenchanted. Just be you and learn how to cook or something. Girls like it when they know how to cook. Do you Mexican, I’ll send some recipes.
Don’t give up and don’t let bad experiences get you down. One day when you find the right girl you will look back on your life and realize you’ve been preparing for her your whole life. You’re certainly not old, so just enjoy the time you have as a single guy and when you least expect it – there she will be.
(((((HUGS)))))
Ive seen you in loads of pictures with some lovely looking girls in,whats wrong with any of these,
Or is it girls you dont don’t want to date.is it the one girl thing you dont like,or just girls in general ????
LOLLLLLLLL
Oh now I know what’s wrong.
Don. Listen. Don’t feel bad. You are a very handsome good looking guy(well it does run in the family). You will find her. I never met you, but you seem like a great
smart intelligent guy. (Hey that’s what I see in a guy) I think you carried too much on your shoulders.
I know how you feel. I’m in the same boat. I’m having trouble myself. I’m single and I still haven’t found that right guy and sometimes I’m sick and tired of seeing all my friends getting married while I’m still single and waiting. It hurts and sometimes they don’t understand especially when they say your time will come. Oh please!!! I’m so sick of that line.
Don. Don’t worry about it and don’t stress over it. Everything will be alright. Maybe you need to sit down and look at your life. If you want to stop dating for a while until its time. I say go for it because there’s that saying. If you’re not looking, that’s when that person will come into your life when you least expected.
If your parents are not pushing you to hurry up and get married, you shouldn’t care what people say.
Heck we’re both pushing 30. Well I won’t be 30 for another 30 and sometimes I’m not ready for it and then on top of that. I will see be single.
Let me tell you this. My mother turned 52 today. She never remarried and she has never told me to hurry up and get married. Hurry up and get my butt out of the house, no hurry and get married. Heck I don’t know what’s she thinking these days.
Don’t worry, Don. We are here for you.
Here’s a cyber hug.
((((((((((Don))))))))))
If you ever get out to Vegas you can go out with my niece. She is a nice girl and pretty. 3o years old.
Hey I’m sounding like Mama C! hehe
Dearest Don,
!) He also has a few things that weren’t on the list, that 20 years down the road, I love about him and those quirky qualities that I would of never and did not put on my list, I’ve learned to love them!.
I know your mom would give you the same advice…Don’t worry about it!
Now as a woman, I want to ask are your standards realistic? Does she have to look like a playboy bunny, but with LDS standards? Does she need to have a degree? (that can come later) Does she have to be a certain age? What is your near perfect girl?..
When I was in Laurels, many, many years ago, they had us make a list. Well a lot of what was on my list, Steve, my husband, has very few, However we laugh a lot and that was on my list, and he is handsome and tall. (But not drop dead) Oh yeah and a very hard worker who loves his family. But there are things he dosen’t have and that’s alright with me. (He didn’t come with a Porsche
I know you didn’t ask for all of this. But I must go on…..
Things you MUST think about, does she enjoy the same down time as you do? Find a girl who thinks you are really funny and enjoys whatever quirks you have, ask any couple that really like each other these are very important issues. I guess what I’m trying to say is it’s just not about looks or perfection it’s about how much you really like being around this person. So don’t worry about being disenchanted with dating, we all were. Well at least the ones that married a little later then the norm LDS standard…Hey I didn’t even have my first kid until I was about to turn 38…..
Good Luck my friend!
Sorry about rambling on!
. . . I don’t get it.
Well you always hear people say what I am about to say, I was jsut fine and at a place in my life where I didn’t really want to meet anyone and I met my hubby when I was 34 and we got married right before I turned 35. I met him at church, he was new to the church I went to and I invited him to all the singles events and before long we started dating.
What shall we do to remind you about the vote link?
Don ~ Not that it will really help, but here is a
((((((((( hug )))))))))
Friend, what happened? I thought you were just kidding last night. Pretty sure I need to hear the whole story. It will be our dinner entertainment tonight!
First. You forgot again. Don Don Don. *puts a sticky on his refrigerator, steering wheel, computer, etc etc.
OK. Anyway. You know Don. I had to look up disenchanted because I had no idea what that means. So you’re not free of something? LOL
LOL OH ok. I know you and ne are both single, but come on. I don’t think we are that desperate to do that. LOL I know I’m not. OK. Would we or any other single people. LOL
Oh Don. What are we going to do with you.